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I'm curious to read the feed back for this one. Ummm as of late I have moved and am back in a familiar area. Most the folks around me for most part lived here all they life. Now usually I receive crazy looks from crazy people and I mean G building crazy. But since with my change of address it also came with a change of roommates.
It just so happens that one of my roommates is a very attractive 22 year old female. If I had her permission to post a picture I would so members could understand. She happens to be attractive and black. So as of late we go out and grab a couple drinks and something to eat. Or just ride to the corner store to grab a wrap and so on.
But all the black men that are around when we hanging out. Become very angered when seeing us together. None has had the courage to bother asking if she was single. So when I was speaking to the clerk at store. He had asked me , is that your girlfriend that comes up here with you. So i explained no , he then told me the slick comments men would say when we leave.
They don't like it , they don't like it at all. Now when I'm given the crazy eye , I'm known to give it right back. Usually fallowed by the efff is you staring at. But what erks me more is the fact none of them bother to ask if we are together. They just see it and start hating. It even goes as far as their is a man who ask for change , he was so mad he refuse to ask me for any change. Which i don't mind cuz it saves me the trouble of saying no.
But the stares of disgust or hate works my nerve. So has any one else had to deal with this. Its open for men and women. As a black woman , have you had to deal with insults from your own race for your preference in men?
Im biracial (black and mexican) and I get stares no matter what the race is of the people Im with. Ignorance is ignorant of race, everyone being equally capable of it and you just have to decide not to care. A lot of people see that dating outside your race as a betrayal when its not. If you're like me, you like someone based on WHO they are, not WHAT they are, everything and everyone else is just background noise. My father has only ever jokingly said that he doesnt want any "slant eyed" grand babies. I went out and bought him "Korean/ Japanese/ Chinese/ Thai for Dummies". ^^
STARES is on thing but being flat out rude is another/
It happens to me all the time. Black men always give my boyfriend and I dirty looks. I even had someone say "Linsanity" which I went off when the guy said and my boyfriend had to ask me to let it go because I can be just as bad as they can.
When people say I just hug him or kiss my boyfriend to piss them off even more. They want to stare so I will give them something to stare at.
But of course some guy actually stare at me and my boyfriend will tell them i'm his and they will back up or give him dap and say "I respect it,.,,She badd."
hmmmm I can go into this more but i'm tired lol
In the town I live it's the opposite, Black men and women they don't care. Most of the stares and weird looks I've got were white. The only white people that didn't trip were some of my friends
here is my video. I spoke about my experience with the stares.
I find that the black men definitely push back the hardest in my case, but I was engaged to an Asian man once (his dad was Japanese and his mother was white) and they hated it (notice I said WAS engaged). Fortunately I've never had to deal with outright disrespectful comments only weird looks and side eyes. I'm totally okay with it. If our presence has that much of an impact on a random stranger, then we must be pretty powerful. Ignorance cracks me up, but what can you do? Some people will always carry that in the box way of thinking. Don't let it upset you and you cant fight every battle.
i experience the same thing before, but i don't care because like Nadyah from the previous comment say has long you and into dating interracial relationship " number one things that come with it is starring. you need to be careless. for example to me if you don't come to my face or called me any name i don't care you look because i know you going to stop. i am into affection public display so when i out it's me and that person nothing around me exist that my mind set. i can focus in things i don't care about. that's me
I get dirty looks whenever I hang out with non-Asian female friends, sometimes I hear really loud negative whispering. I'm used to it by now.