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Keepin' It Real: 9 Answers to Complaints From Black Women on Asian Men

I tried to post this last night but my internet is in wack mode and shut down on me. I think when it comes to Asian Men and Black Women, both are to blame for their lack of connections. But I think we women at times won't openly address the shortcomings we have when it comes to meeting Asian men. As someone who's been cruising AW/BW sites for about 5 years (LOL sad isn't it), I've encountered black women who seem to have the same issues when it comes to Asian men, but they don't put much thought into their reasons for the issues. I'm NOT blaming black women here, but I think we can also reflect on our decisions when it comes to dating.So I have some advice for ladies based off the type of complaints I've seen over and over from black women. Of course this is just my opinion and may not reflect the feelings of the black women here. But I'm writing it anyway. If any black ladies want to comment, complain, or add their own notes, please do so. And guys, I'd like to hear from you as well.


1. "He Doesn't Like Black Girls!"
Nowadays we live in a world where the word "preference" is thrown around left and right. Some prefer tall girls, some prefer girls with big boobs. And some don't prefer a black girls. Honestly I think asking a guy why he doesn't date black girls can lead to an interesting conversation. For some guy it's for more shallow reasons; and sometimes they will have downright racist reasons. FUCK THOSE GUYS! Why would you even bother with a man like that? Move on!

But there are the guys who have had little exposure to black women, thus they were out of the realm of dating. Those are the guys you can work with. If you approach him as "you" first and "black woman" second, it opens his mind not only to who you are, but also the idea that black women aren't the same or even elusive.

Also remember ladies for every Asian guy out there that isn't interested in black women, there's one that is. If Guy #2 isn't working out then look elsewhere.


2. "He Just Wants To Fuck Me!"
Many times I here of black women lamenting over the fact that some Asian guys just see them as sex objects. They're quick to point fingers at the media as it's common to see a half naked black ass in the latest hip-hop video. Now I won't dispute this because there is some truth here. But I have another theory. Ready for it? Asian men are...men. Men love to fuck. A lot of them don't care about race, they just care about how good your puntang is. And yes there are Asian guys like that. Now there is the Asian guy just looking to "experiment" with you because he's never been with a black woman before. Any guy that only thinks of you as an experiment deserves a nice big small and a kick in the nuts. But men are men. When you meet horny little Jun and you're turn off by his sexual advances...then send him my way because I'm horny too! LOL or just tell Jun you're not interested or you'd like to get to know him a bit more before hitting the sheets. If he doesn't wanna hear it, move on!


3. "He's Not A REAL Asian Because He Doesn't Like Anime!"
Asian media may not be mainstream in the US but it's not difficult to find black girls that like anime, K-drama, Jpop, etc. Unfortunately, these girls will think this type of media is the best way to meet Asian men. And they get downright offense because Tim Yang doesn't listen to Big Bang or Yoshitaka down the street isn't watching Hana Yori Dango. LOL the ironic thing is these are the same girls that get offended if Yoshitaka asks her if she likes Kanye West. I'm a fan of Asian media myself so I'm not gonna say hide these things, BUT be careful about how you discuss these things with him. Running up and saying, "OMG I LOVE GOONG WHAT ABOUT YOU!" Might Turn him off. Maybe, "Yeah I like to watch a lot of stuff. I enjoy a good K-drama from time to time, but I also like..." And if you see he's interested in K-drama, keep the convo going. If he's like "What? K-drama? Eww?" then don't harp on it.

And remember: while Dragonball Z is a part of Japanese culture, it's part of POP culture. Just because he's not watching doesn't mean he doesn't know anything else about Japanese culture, especially if he is Japanese. Don't question who he is because he's not watching the latest HK flick. He might express ideas of his own cultures in ways that are over your head because the only thing you know is pop culture.I think it's good to ask people about aspects of their culture outside of the "cool" "Wacky" stuff just as long as you're not tactless asking "Why do Thai People Dance Like Chickens?" Because it just makes you sound stupid.


4. "He's not a REAL Asian because he's not right from Asia!"
So I guess you're not black because you're not from the motherland right? Yes I have seen black women use the "I only like foreign Asian men line" and ignore Tom because he was born in NYC. Think about the reason  of why you want the guy from Asia. Is it based off your own stereotypical views of men living in Asia? Well here's a reality check: there are many men in Asian that are just as obnoxious as guys here. Then you have to deal with issues of a stronger cultural barrier and even the idea of leaving your country to be with him. Are these things impossible to deal with? No. But America hasn't corrupted every Asian man that was born and raised here. If Tom was born and raised in NY tell him he's a got a sexy NY accent and ask him what he likes to do for fun. LOL he may be the Asian guy that like Dragonball Z.


5. "I'm looking for my own Bi!"
We live in a very shallow world so I won't even pretend that looks don't matter. However remember not to let your love for those nice defined abs of Kpop stars or the "beautiful" look of Gackt cloud your ideas of what Asian men looks like. Yes there are some very hot guys walking the streets. And there are also the guys that may not have the abs but have other great aspects. I'm a sucker for a man with dimples and a great smile. And I'm an ass girl...I work with what you got. ;P Tom from NY maybe an inch shorter than you but he makes you laugh, has a great smile, looks even cuter in his glasses, he's into you and c'mon...he likes Dragonball Z! Date this guy!


6. "He's a Thugabee!"
"Thugbee" is a word I created while living in Japan. It means "thug wanabee." You know the Asian guys sporting cornrow, listening to hip-hop, wear Sean John, wants to live in Harlem. Naturally he's looking for his black girlfriend trophy and he's set his eyes on you. Unfortunately his this is the only idea of black culture he has and he's expecting you to teach him about it. So it's the flipside of you--anime loving, K-drama watching, gyaru style wearing black girl--approaching an Asian Guy.

This is a tricky on here and you can take several options. First, you're not a damn teacher, but remind him that black culture is more than the latest Kanye West video. Again this is wear, "you" present yourself first then "black woman." Let him know that black PEOPLE are not all alike and he needs to be interested in you for who you are, and not because of your skin color. Now these guys can be pretty hot. Seriously I've seen some nice abs, faces, and asses on these guys. But how can you build a relationship with a guy that doesn't see you? Just use him as your fuck buddy and look elsewhere for an Asian guy that will see "you" and "black woman." Or skip the fuckbuddy part and just look for a new guy.


7. "He's not From Japan!"
Earlier I mentioned foreign men, but here I'm gonna be a bit more specific. I've met some black women that claim to love all kinds of Asian men, when they really just mean Chinese, Japanese, or Korean Men. Umm ladies...there tons of other hot ass Asian men out there. Here are a few examples:

Indonesian



Indian



Thai



Filipino



Vietnamese



LOL yes I know this conradicts my whole "Average Asian Guy" comments earlier since these guys are all models or actors. But the point is there's more to Asian men than just three countries. There as interesting, funny, smart, and outgoing as Chinese, Japanese, and Korean guys. So give them another looks. Tom, our Dragonball Z loving guy who makes you laugh and smile despite the slight height difference is Vietnamese. Why are you not dating this man!?


8. "I Can't Find Asian Men Here"
Asians are like black folks: we're EVERYWHERE! Sometimes you just have to get a bit to meet them. There are the routes like going to Asian dance clubs, events, and happy hours, but don't do it too much because you'll look like a black chick desperately seeking some yellow mantang. If a guy asks you why you're at the event, A shrug and "I like to do all kinds of things and meet all kinds of people" works better than "I'm looking for yellow man-tang...are you single and do you like Naruto?" you can find Asian men at other places like concerts, stores, other dance clubs, etc. LOL I know Asian men are everywhere but I know it can be hard to find them at the right time. Ther's the beauty of the internet. Internet dating has lost a lot of it's stigma of losers being online and people are making real connections. Sometimes the net works better because people actually are more honest online. If you see an Asian guy looking to tap some black ass because he wants to experiment, he's being honest about it. DON'T REPLY!!! You do have to have a stronger weeding process with the internet sometimes, but like I said it has worked before. I think the biggest issue maybe distance though. Tom is still in NY but you're living in California. If you truly feel Tom is the one, then I say go ahead with discussing plans to move or marriage...after careful consideration of course. But make sure you're both ready to make those changes. In the end you need to think about what's best for you and how you feel.


9. "He's not ASIAN!"
So Tom didn't work out. And you meet a gorgeous black men who's only got eyes for you and you have a lot in common. Date his ass! Sorry Asian guys you know I love y'all but I refuse to believe that any woman should sit around waiting for Mr. Asian Right. In the end Mr. Right might not be Asian, and that's not a crime.


So that's it. Anyone looking to thrown stones and yell at me for stereotyping Asian Men and Black Women here...I'll take your ass on! LOL!

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You made a lot of sense with this topic and I agree with everything except for the fact that Asians are everywhere. Now I'm fortunate to live in NYC and see a lot of Asian guys, but most of the Asians in the US live in NYC (not even NY State) or California, so people outside of those areas will have a harder time meeting Asian guys. Other than that I agree with you and think it's sad that some people believe the excuses you listed above.

I do stay away from thugabee guys from any race cause I'm not interested in glorifying thug culture.

I also agree that you shouldn't wait around for an Asian guy when there may be other men who would love you and treat you well. I like Asian guys and was on an interracial dating site looking to meet Asian guys but I met a white guy and we've been a couple for over 3 months now. It would have been foolish to say, he's not Asian so I won't date him, and I would be missing out on the happiness and fun we have together.

I agree with you. I'm from LA and there is a large viet population, mad asians in TX, a lot in atlanta, and a crapload in DC.

 

NY/CA aren't the only places.

there isn't a whole lot in atlanta.  and unfortunately, most of them are nail techs or GT students.
actually there is alot in atlanta.....u have to go to plesenthill and buford hwy....they have their own section of town but they do leave it like a whole crap load of them go to my school and no...its not GT or GSU.. and most nail techs out here are viet....so u are forgeting about the huge korean population....i mean they have hmarts in 5 areas now
no if you want a asian guy , you can find one off the 285 and peachtree industrial , low maintenance and comes with a travel kit.
now that was deep. Did not know marrow was considered the southside.
But not EVERYWHERE in Tx. THere are TONS in Ca for in every state Im sure there are certain cities where there are more asians. and if you are not in that area....its very few. Where I live in TX there was this filipino girl and when i told her how many filipinos i know back in CA she didnt believe me how many went to my school. I literally had to bring my yrbook to prove it to her.

And at my school in TX i seriously only saw 3 or 7 tops.
I'm in southern Virginia (Hampton Roads) and there are Vietnamese, Koreans, Filipinos, Indians, Chinese dudes every daggone where.  I was in Walmart yesterday in my new favorite fucshia sari and this really cute Asian guy came up, asked my name and then asked for my number.  And, from working in DC, I will co-sign, that DC and Northern Virginia is as heavily populated with Asians as California.  LOL.  They are like blacks and latinos...they are EVERYWHERE. 

DC does not have as many asians as Cali. Maybe some pockets of NoVA and Maryland tho

Texas you say? If you know of any in the Austin area let me know! LOL!
Thats what I'm saying. There are very few Asians where i live, which is the Dallas area. I know that there are a lot of Asians in Houston.

I don't know about "crapload" in DC. I have been living in DC for the past five years and the Asian to non-Asian ratio is far smaller than the other cities.

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