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Why Black Women? Why Asian Men?


Why Black Women? Why Asian Men?

Now Here's something new to the table,

Half of us here have never gotten the chance to read or discuss about *why we have decided to join BWAM and also what it is that we personally find attractive in Black Women/Asian Men,

Please share your thoughts !

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Comment by Hi I'm Paris! on November 16, 2015 at 8:50am
I have always felt a connection to the Asian culture just never met one to have an open discussion with. I see beauty, brilliance and highly educated Asian people and I'm interested in really getting to know the Asian culture and one for myself!
Comment by J.Boogyy on November 8, 2015 at 2:39pm
I've loved asian guys for as long as I can remember. Since elementary school my crushes have always been the asian guys but somehow I always became best friends with them, on going into high school. It's always been the culture, the food is bomb lol, they're beautiful and were always by my side for every family event. I used to be so territorial of my guys lmao..I started learning to speak Khmer so I can communicate w.them and nobody knew what we were saying haha..but never continued. My bro and sis's are "blackbodian" so the saga of being intrigued continues lol
Comment by Afro2 on September 30, 2015 at 10:14pm

Asian Men are simply Sexy. 

Comment by K. Brown on September 24, 2015 at 12:22am

Hi everyone, I have always had an attraction to Asian men but only recently found that Asian men would even have an attraction to black women. I think it's fantastic and I think it's a lot that we can teach each other and show each other. I think that we have a lot of interest that are in common and a lot of differences to learn about which should keep the relationship fresh and always evolving. With the right guy I am more than willing to give it a try.

Comment by Colby Dickson on September 20, 2015 at 10:41pm
Personally I am into diversity and what I like about Asian men is about their culture which has a few similarities with the west African one. Seriousness of the children education, respect of the eldest, remembrance of the ancestors...etc...etc...
I also like their foods, rich in flavour, colourful and sometimes spicy.
As for their men their physical attributes is not important for me as I am more into intellectual/ spiritual side and characteristics compabilities.
Comment by Andrew Chin on August 18, 2015 at 10:26am

Hello Everyone,

After taking ethnic studies courses about 25 years ago (uh-oh, I'm dating myself), and learning about the impact of media on how we perceive beauty, I made the decision to see beauty in all peoples, and to have no preferences whatsoever in my dating life.  I think I've done a pretty good job over the years.  However, recently I've started to reconsider my position.  It's occurred to me that it's human nature to have at least some level of preference.  I've had to come to the conclusion that it's practically impossible to prefer different racial/ethnic groups equally in terms of beauty and dating preference.

I still see beauty in all women, and I'm still open to dating anyone regardless of race, but I do have to admit that in my opinion some of the most beautiful women around are Black women.

I don't want to go too far off topic, but this thread raises a question for me.  We are consistently inundated with stereotypical images from larger society.  Even people only date intraracially tend to stereotype their own group!  If this is the case, is it possible to completely overcome stereotype and bias when dating interracially?

However, maybe "overcome" is the wrong term.  Perhaps the term "transcend" is more appropriate.  Is it possible transcend our own biases when forming a healthy and lasting relationship?  Part of reason why I bring this up is because in my time on this planet I've yet to meet anyone who does not have some level of bias.  You meet someone, get to know them, and sooner or later, he/she starts to reveal themselves.

Anyway, I'm happy to share and would to hear your responses!



Comment by Pauline M on May 5, 2015 at 12:06pm

Being in love with an idea and actually experiencing are two different thing. I haven't had the chance to date an Asian so I have this idea that I would very much like to sort out. Why? The things I hold at my core, Honor, love, respect loyalty, compassion, strength, tenderness, discipline, hard work, drive, intelligence, innovation, honesty, family, venerability and  a strong sense of culture tend to be embodied in the Asian culture. I know, this can be found in any culture but there is one tiny thing that tips the scale, attraction. I can explain it but Asians do something to me. I swear I think I was an Asian in my past life. :-) As primitive as it sounds, I cant help what I an attracted to. I see nothing but  sexy beauty. go figure :-)

Comment by carita allen on May 4, 2015 at 7:25pm

I am attracted to men of all races but most of all I have always wanted to date an Asian man.  When ever I was attracted to one in particular I was always told Asian men NEVER date Black women and of course all the stereotypes that go with them. I never had the confidence to talk to an Asian guy as far as like dating was concerned.  I also feel that most times Asian's especially the women are so fetishized and I don't want to fall into that trap.  I am glad to see so many women (especailly Black women) open to date different ethnicities.  I think Asain men by far "For Real"  are the most beautiful men I have ever seen. I will definity settle down with and marry and Asian man in a heart beat.


Comment by Nija on May 4, 2015 at 5:42pm

To be perfectly honest Ive dated a black guy, white guy and two asian guys in my life, so I wouldnt say that there is a certain feature that Asian guys have or anything, I just like a great man.  But as far as values go, growing up in a Martial Arts community (2nd dan in TKD) I grew up around mostly asian and blacks and then in school only white.  I grew up loving Korean and Japanese culture because I studied Karate and TKD.  So my first crush was Korean, and my very first boyfriend was too. I find that the values instilled within these cultures and the martial arts that mirror each culture is what attracts me to these men.  I am currently studying in Japan for the summer so I am also seeing the differences between Japanese american culture and Japanese culture as well.  I love the familial values that have been passed down and the chilvary in both Korean and Japanese culture is amazing, not to mention im an Anime nerd and Japanese car nerd so I guess most of the people in those forums are asian men which attract me. 

Comment by Seod123 on March 5, 2015 at 10:43am

It's kind of hard to explain, but I'll try. There's obviously a physical attraction to Black women, but it goes deeper than that. The ones I have met and know are all very pleasant, intelligent and articulate people. Of course, I don't wish to generalise. All the negative and crude stereotypes pitted against Black women are false, at least from my experience, I find it unfair how both Black women and Asian men are almost negatively portrayed and stereotyped.

Moreover, I've found that a lot of Black women take an sincere interest in Asian culture, and want to learn about it, which contrasts the often cultural appropriation of other people vis a vis Asian culture. 

BWAM relationships are rare, but they are definitely increasing. Within my own family, my mother is the result of a union between a Creole woman and a Chinese man, and a few of my uncles have married Black women. So they do happen :)


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