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Why Black Women? Why Asian Men?


Why Black Women? Why Asian Men?

Now Here's something new to the table,

Half of us here have never gotten the chance to read or discuss about *why we have decided to join BWAM and also what it is that we personally find attractive in Black Women/Asian Men,

Please share your thoughts !

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Comment by Andrew Chin on August 18, 2015 at 10:26am

Hello Everyone,

After taking ethnic studies courses about 25 years ago (uh-oh, I'm dating myself), and learning about the impact of media on how we perceive beauty, I made the decision to see beauty in all peoples, and to have no preferences whatsoever in my dating life.  I think I've done a pretty good job over the years.  However, recently I've started to reconsider my position.  It's occurred to me that it's human nature to have at least some level of preference.  I've had to come to the conclusion that it's practically impossible to prefer different racial/ethnic groups equally in terms of beauty and dating preference.

I still see beauty in all women, and I'm still open to dating anyone regardless of race, but I do have to admit that in my opinion some of the most beautiful women around are Black women.

I don't want to go too far off topic, but this thread raises a question for me.  We are consistently inundated with stereotypical images from larger society.  Even people only date intraracially tend to stereotype their own group!  If this is the case, is it possible to completely overcome stereotype and bias when dating interracially?

However, maybe "overcome" is the wrong term.  Perhaps the term "transcend" is more appropriate.  Is it possible transcend our own biases when forming a healthy and lasting relationship?  Part of reason why I bring this up is because in my time on this planet I've yet to meet anyone who does not have some level of bias.  You meet someone, get to know them, and sooner or later, he/she starts to reveal themselves.

Anyway, I'm happy to share and would to hear your responses!



Comment by Ann on May 29, 2015 at 9:37pm

I too don't discriminate against any race. It's just my past experiences in life with my take on men has not been too kind to me lately. I still am curious if a friendship or perhaps more would be possible with Asian men. Although I am not the first who will make the move because I haven't quite grown out of that shy stage just yet. If I am ever approached by an Asian man any time soon I will be respectful as I always am. Me in general. I just want to know by my experience what it would be like to make a true Asian male friend, who isn't all about the female body but wants to genuinely get to know me for me. 

Comment by Pauline M on May 5, 2015 at 12:06pm

Being in love with an idea and actually experiencing are two different thing. I haven't had the chance to date an Asian so I have this idea that I would very much like to sort out. Why? The things I hold at my core, Honor, love, respect loyalty, compassion, strength, tenderness, discipline, hard work, drive, intelligence, innovation, honesty, family, venerability and  a strong sense of culture tend to be embodied in the Asian culture. I know, this can be found in any culture but there is one tiny thing that tips the scale, attraction. I can explain it but Asians do something to me. I swear I think I was an Asian in my past life. :-) As primitive as it sounds, I cant help what I an attracted to. I see nothing but  sexy beauty. go figure :-)

Comment by carita allen on May 4, 2015 at 7:25pm

I am attracted to men of all races but most of all I have always wanted to date an Asian man.  When ever I was attracted to one in particular I was always told Asian men NEVER date Black women and of course all the stereotypes that go with them. I never had the confidence to talk to an Asian guy as far as like dating was concerned.  I also feel that most times Asian's especially the women are so fetishized and I don't want to fall into that trap.  I am glad to see so many women (especailly Black women) open to date different ethnicities.  I think Asain men by far "For Real"  are the most beautiful men I have ever seen. I will definity settle down with and marry and Asian man in a heart beat.


Comment by Nija on May 4, 2015 at 5:42pm

To be perfectly honest Ive dated a black guy, white guy and two asian guys in my life, so I wouldnt say that there is a certain feature that Asian guys have or anything, I just like a great man.  But as far as values go, growing up in a Martial Arts community (2nd dan in TKD) I grew up around mostly asian and blacks and then in school only white.  I grew up loving Korean and Japanese culture because I studied Karate and TKD.  So my first crush was Korean, and my very first boyfriend was too. I find that the values instilled within these cultures and the martial arts that mirror each culture is what attracts me to these men.  I am currently studying in Japan for the summer so I am also seeing the differences between Japanese american culture and Japanese culture as well.  I love the familial values that have been passed down and the chilvary in both Korean and Japanese culture is amazing, not to mention im an Anime nerd and Japanese car nerd so I guess most of the people in those forums are asian men which attract me. 

Comment by Reni on March 24, 2015 at 7:44pm

I'm physically attracted to men with nice cheekbones and strong facial features. Sometimes I like beards. Sometimes long hair. Attractive (and unattractive) men come in all different colors, shapes and sizes. But, what's really attractive is demonstrating to me (through words, actions, etc.) that you recognize and understand that I'm more than my looks or what I can do for you sexually. Asian men just happen to be in the lead in terms of sapoisexuality so I'm just trying to ride that train until the wheels fall off.     

Comment by Seod123 on March 5, 2015 at 10:43am

It's kind of hard to explain, but I'll try. There's obviously a physical attraction to Black women, but it goes deeper than that. The ones I have met and know are all very pleasant, intelligent and articulate people. Of course, I don't wish to generalise. All the negative and crude stereotypes pitted against Black women are false, at least from my experience, I find it unfair how both Black women and Asian men are almost negatively portrayed and stereotyped.

Moreover, I've found that a lot of Black women take an sincere interest in Asian culture, and want to learn about it, which contrasts the often cultural appropriation of other people vis a vis Asian culture. 

BWAM relationships are rare, but they are definitely increasing. Within my own family, my mother is the result of a union between a Creole woman and a Chinese man, and a few of my uncles have married Black women. So they do happen :)

Comment by Doracuh on March 3, 2015 at 2:59pm
Honestly, my attraction to asian cultures, and all that jazz, cannot be explained. It is what it is and that's it
Comment by Erica reed on February 27, 2015 at 8:55pm
U can ramble all u want lol
Comment by eve on February 18, 2015 at 5:34am

Well, whenever I see an Asian man, I get goose bumps. yah. It's that serious. They are business minded, go getters, always calm and collected, geniuses when it comes to technology (did I just say that..) anyway, I love them. I want to settle down with one..someday..hopefully. I have a thing for Asian men that I cannot even explain. Thank you Admin for this site..My dreams are halfway answered


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