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Velvet Monarch
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  • Tampa, FL
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Are Asian Guys at the Bottom of the Totem Pole

Started this discussion. Last reply by Porsha. Aug 20, 2013. 21 Replies

I just found this video and was wondering, do you guys truly feel like this?  Obviously, none of the women here believe it.   Continue

Advice to the SHY Fellas: Sometimes You Gotta Say WTF!

Started this discussion. Last reply by Deki May 1, 2013. 22 Replies

This is to the guys: Ever feel invisible?  Ever feel like you want to dance to your favorite song, but too scared to ask anyone or even dance by yourself? One guy wished he could have my candor.…Continue

Tags: WTF, Empowerment

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What are you looking for on this site? Be specific about your motive/purpose, in terms of what you want to look for, in one or two sentences, even if you're unsure of / new to this. Explain at your best.
friend maybe more
We would like you to tell your Asian Male and/or your Black female friends about the site, would you help us find cool people who would support interracial interaction? Please explain.
if I know any interested I would
How do you feel about having a complete Egotistical Wise Ass as a site Creator/Administrator??? ;)
I don't mind. Keeps things interesting.
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About Me

The Kim behind the Kim!

Out of the thousands of folks on the planet you`ve found me. I am 41, currently residing in Tampa, Florida, however, I was born and raised in San Diego, CA, never left until I joined the Navy. I honorably served 9 years, 5 as a mechanic, and left when my mom took ill. I am a proud single mom of 3 children. I am currently pursuing my dream as a digital graphic artist and animator while working in sales at a newspaper. I like to laugh and have a good time. I try to avoid drama and relish peace and quiet. I sketch and animate people. I like to read and write fantasy/ sci-fi, and horror. I love amusement parks and roller coasters. I truly believe that I should try virtually everything once,if it feels good-twice, and a third time to confirm it.

I believe that God has brought me this far, but I don`t force my views on anyone and I don't judge.

  I get freaky, but I am not nasty. I am much more settled and truly embrace monagamy. At this time, I am not actively searching, as much as that I am working on myself. I believe it is better to be Ms. Right than hunt for Mr. Right. Besides, I have had my fill of Mr. Right-now`s, enough to have two football teams, and then, some to fill the stands. So if your are just looking for a nice "piece", keep looking. However, if love finds me, who am I to deny it?

I don`t know the hottest spots in Tampa, but I am actively dating right now, in moderation, mind you. Having kids, I can tell you where Chuck E. Cheese is and a few choice parks, but I am far from the party freak. My family and my career are my greatest focus right now, but I don`t mind an occasional note or email.

Why am I here?

I like men who are different from me. I love variety, different races and unpredictable, unconventional people. I am enjoying this site immensely.  I only know a handful of Asian men, there are next to none in my habitat and feel that I would love to learn, and possibly thrive, in an environment where the Asian men are KING and prefer women like myself.  Why Asian men?  Why not?  I find Asian men extremely attractive, elusive and fascinating.  I am challenging myself to artistically capture the men who friend me here on BWAMU.  Of the men I have had a pleasure of speaking with, all have been incredibly awesome.  One even had me writing bad poetry, I was so taken with him. Asian men are as vast and as colorful as black people.  Our peoples have shared the bonds of oppression in America, right alongside native Americans.  There is a quiet mystique about Asian men that I don't see in other races, they share a rich heritages and beautiful traditions.  As an African American I am cut off from the homeland that gave me my dark skin and kinky hair.  I would be as foreign in Africa as any other country.  On the other hand, being an American allows me a freedom to adopt many different cultures into my household.  I could be eating a taco in between playing a PS3 Fatal Frame game on my Samsung, after watching a Korean soap opera, wearing a dashiki made in Taiwan on a Christmas day. Just saying there is always room in my heart to experience more cultures and tastes and traditions.

I'd rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are; because a could-be is a maybe who is reaching for a star. I'd rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far; for a might have-been has never been, but a has was once an are. 
-Milton Berle


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60% of Japanese Guys “Have No Girlfriend" and 30% of Japanese Men “Have Never Even Dated”....REALLY?

Posted on September 6, 2013 at 7:11pm 2 Comments

I found these two articles on one of my  favorite sites. I am not sure where they got their findings, but after reading these, all I could wonder was of that 30% and 60%, how many of them would like to get to know women like us? And how can we find out?

 30% of Japanese Men “Have Never Even Dated”…


The Solo Act....

Posted on September 7, 2012 at 9:05pm 3 Comments

Every man I know touches himself.  There have been times I have even been fortunate to watch. The last guy I remember watching, was around my age,  like in his mid 30's.  He had a vast library of porn on his computer to the point where he damn near needed the Dewey decimal system to find the genre he wanted.  The first thing I noticed was that there was no performance anxiety.  I let him know that I was only there to observe... well, observe and buy a car he was selling.  I don't judge, I…


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At 10:47pm on September 5, 2012, Chris H said…

thanks kim :D

At 10:16pm on August 29, 2012, Niecey said…

:O did you draw all those pictures?! SO awesome ^^d

At 10:57pm on August 27, 2012, Man said…

okok cow is staying.

At 5:41pm on August 26, 2012, Man said…

haha thanks.  maybe i should change to "brick" instead. 

At 12:19am on August 21, 2012, Man said…

welcome welcome! :D

At 7:47pm on August 19, 2012, lucia edward said…

Hi from Lucia,

My name is Lucia okoh I am a girl, I saw your profile here and my spirit ask me to contact you about this important issue so please, I would like you to send me mail here ( ) so that i will tell you about the important issue and also give you my sweet picture.
I am waiting for your urgent and immediate reply to my email.
Thank you
Miss Lucia okoh


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