As of late I've been talking to a lot of (Black) women who suddenly become open to inter-racial dating in their late 30's and 40's. These women exclusively have dated and been in relationships/marriages with no one else. I suppose we can say that most of the population sticks to their own race. Black Women Asian Men pairing driving at the lowest of all inter-racial marriages. I've cited a lot of reasons, which I will restate now. 1. Population in America (Simply more racially labeled…
Love has knocked on many of my doors as of late. I've turned a few of those handles, but can't seem to unlock those tumblers for anyone. I keep on peeping through those eye holes and imagine possible futures play out. I'm really conversing through barriers still reminded to have my house in order before letting anyone in. There was a point I wished that perfect someone would come along and rearrange my humble abode...but I awake knowing there is no room or responsibility …
Greater men fall into ruin for love of women plowed by yet other lower men. How unfortunate this cycle is denied, yet one closest to reality. As in side effect, blindness to the inner value of more equal women who come along serve nothing but balance...for us who are ruined can only value for sexual favors or beauty, ironically the same value the ones we fell in love with give themselves up for in betrayals... The end result is to go on never trusting and experiencing true love ever…
Over the years I've come to accept that my legacy is a past I cannot escape, yet overcame. And with that includes Bwamu and the many lives it has effected on and off the net. What is unfortunate is that all of these things are double edged swords for those who hoped for my failure -and those who believed and supported my dreams. What is more saddening is that the everyday things I do, the little things that I put tremendous efforts to...will be forgotten and overlooked, and all that…
The problem with faith is that having it disallows those that are faithful to question what they believe, and perpetuates itself by questioning only the beliefs outside of it. The only way to have an open mind is to understand that we might have been taught to have a closed one.
I promised that I would get this done before 2011. This is it, and if you aren’t prepared for realness, I advise you skip this note. I know for a lot of people, Facebook is related to politics, reputation, and or jobs, and the fear of giving your deepest parts of Self is freighting for most of the population…except for me. Since it such high content, I expect most people to not read it, and I’m fine with that, it’s yet again,…
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I…Continue
I got that nerd flirt swagg with some freaky on my mind, I'll tell you all about it -when you ask -when you call -when you message -take it all -take you back -to a place -between smiles -let me taste, let me search, let me touch, hey there friend, I want you much, I need you rough, I feel your soft, if it gets wet, we get it off, we get on, yeah I'll say it, get it on, get it good, get it great, pulled it off, all your lace, all your fear, I set you free, I give you mind, I give you V, I give… Continue
I had to face that age old dilemma again. Friends Vs. Fact. Being caught between being loyal or honest, I usually choose being truthful. If you don't want to know...don't ask me. If you ask me and then I plead the 5th, then you know the truth. I can't win, it's times like these that I have to find those who value what I do. A friend made me realize that we all want the same things, we just all go about it differently.
When it comes to war and competition, the ends and… Continue
Love is rare, and true love rarer. Close to impossible. There are many men- not only Asian men, Who know that Black Women are Beautiful. They are limitless, boundless, wells of Passion, They are strong, soft, smart, and sometimes sassy, But my brothers, heed me when I say, At the end of the day, Black Women is not a "they," Because the ONE you are looking for is a SHE, an individual, a heart, a mind - a being. That just so happens to…
PISCES - The Partner for Life (February 19 to March 20) Caring and kind. Smart. Likes to be the centre of attention. Very organized. High appeal
to opposite sex. Likes to have the last word. Good to find, but hard to
keep. Passionate, wonderful lovers. Fun to be around. Too trusting at
times and gets hurt easily. VERY ...…
Right now I'm thinking about what the measure of a man is...or more so, what is the measure for me. If you look at the site, and it's effect of eternally connecting people...some would say that I'm successful. But as I look at my newborn son, something inside of me feels like that I am not enough. On the site, and in life social settings...people would say that I'm "The Man." However, once you place me in life's perspective, that measure doesn't count as much.
These few months, I've been feeling the pressure. The site, removing people, Jasmine's death, the email with the past with the lack of truth...and just people hating. I have a child on the way. I get messages of "I hate you" to "I love you" from all sides.
All these people around me...I am still alone within this hurricane which is my life. Every step I take into a positive direction, I feel the urge of those pulling against me, back...I resist by saying that it's me, the…
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